The Jacobean poet George Herbert once wrote a poem called “The Pulley,” in which he imagines the Creator’s thoughts about the endowment of mankind. “Having a glass of blessings standing by,” God proposes to pour in “all we can.” Strength, beauty, honor, wisdom and pleasure are all bestowed. The one blessing that remains in the glass — rest — God decides to withhold. This, foreseeably, would lead to human complacency: “Rest in nature, not in God of Nature.” Herbert’s God wants to be needed.
More than three hundred years after Herbert wrote his poem, Barbara Pym borrowed a phrase from it for the title her fifth novel, A Glass of Blessings. Her heroine, Wilmet Forsythe, is a lovely woman of thirty-five, tall and handsome, well and comfortably married, charming in her life of leisure. If she has not been blessed with children, that is not so much a deprivation as it is a condition of Pym’s tale. For mothers, although they may be frustrated, are not known for experiencing restlessness, and restlessness is the driver of Wilmet’s carefree life.
It’s been a while since I last read A Glass of Blessings, but who could forget the name “Wilmet”? When it popped up, toward the end of the next novel that Barbara Pym wrote, No Fond Return of Love, I sat up in my chair. Two ladies, Dulcie and Viola, are visiting a stately home.
It was when they were leaning over the red cord to study a particularly striking arrangement of pressed seaweed that Dulce’s attention was caught by a rather interesting looking couple, who had come close enough for their conversation to be overheard. They were a tall, elegantly- dressed woman of about thirty-five with a fur stole draped casually over her dark gray suit and a frivolous little pink velvet hat…
… and a small young man with a common voice whom the woman calls Keith. They discuss the state of the room’s curtains, which the woman admires — they’re woven from Lyonnais silk — but which don’t look very clean to Keith. Shortly after he expresses his preference for draperies that can be washed in Tide, two other men approach, one of whom addresses the woman by name, while the other, we learn, is called Piers. The speaker says that it’s time to go.
They seemed to melt away, the young woman throwing a vague smile toward Dulcie and Viola as, cherished and secure with her three men, she moved away from them.
Wilmet and Piers, I wondered — didn’t they have a thing, or almost? But who was Keith?
As soon as I was done with No Fond Return of Love, I picked up my new copy of A Glass of Blessings. I had replaced the old copy after learning that the Pym editions that I acquired in the early Eighties were no longer up to the physical ordeal of being read (and re-read) by me. I was on the third page of Excellent Women when the cover simply sheared off, the crack along the spine finally giving way. Pym’s novels had established themselves as reliable getaways, not escapes really but literary infirmaries, in whose chapters I could stretch out and be taken care of. It is easy to dismiss Pym’s world as a lost paradise of sensible women chatting about elderly vicars and attractive curates —all the lovelier for not putting one through an actual Harvest Festival. But one wouldn’t revisit her churches and parish halls if their lighting were not so devilishly electrified by sharp, sparkling prose, almost always captured in a character’s dialogue or introspection. The Open Road edition of A Glass of Blessings sports several pious blurbs on the back, but it’s the contribution by Jilly Cooper, of all people, that gets to the point: Pym “makes me roar with laughter.” Pym’s situations aren’t funny, but her comments are. It’s everyday life at its very best, in other words, relieved and redeemed by a blessing that George Herbert appears to have overlooked, great good humor.
Wilmet Forsyth is an unusual heroine for a Pym novel, as the quick shots above will suggest to Pym’s readers. Her being elegantly-attired distinguishes her sharply from the run of Pym’s rather more dowdy heroines, the “excellent women” who seem to keep ecclesiastical life going by pouring endless cups of tea. In the middle of A Glass of Blessings, Wilmet distinguishes herself further:
I myself seemed to belong to two very clearly defined circles — the martini drinkers and the tea drinkers though I was only just beginning to be initiated into the latter. I imagine that both might offer different kinds of comfort, though there would surely be times when one might prefer the one that wasn’t available. (46)
Every now and then, strong drink is imposed on Pym’s other heroines, but of none of them could it be said that she is an “initiate.” Wilmet also tells us repeatedly that she is “fastidious” a quality that Mildred Lashbury and Dulcie Mainwaring would associate with vanity, and not to be confessed without shame. Most distinctive is Wilmet’s very frequent use of the term “unsuitable,” a word that appears in the other novels only in connection with clerical matters. In A Glass of Blessings, it means the opposite of comme il faut. Wilmet is a snob. I don’t think that there’s a chapter in the first half of the novel in which the word does not appear, and it makes a transformed appearance in the book’s last line: “It seemed a happy and suitable ending to a good day.”
A Glass of Blessings is also unusual in being narrated by its heroine, in the first person. That’s, I think, why I treasure the sighting in No Fond Return of Love: it gives a glimpse of Wilmet from the outside. The detail that I cannot repress is Wilmet’s stole, that rather useless accoutrement that I remember from childhood and that now makes me think, surreally, of a ladies’ Laocoon, without any of the Greek grimness. Dulcie Mainwaring sees the unknown Wilmet’s stole as “draped casually,” which to me means that it is worn over one shoulder and the opposite arm, carried most attractively by women who know how to externalize the inclination to slink. “Cherished and secure with her three men,” Dulcie feels. Yes, but readers who know Wilmet from the inside will not have forgotten how close she came to being cherished by none.
I was glad when I reached our meeting place and saw Piers standing with his back to me, apparently absorbed in a border of lupins. I wanted to rush up to him with some silly extravagant gesture, like covering his eyes with my hands; and my hands were outstretched, waiting to be taken in his, when I called his name and he turned round to face me.
Whoops! A near miss. Two pages later, I was reintroduced to Keith.